Ever fallen in love with someone you couldn't be with??? :/

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Aria R.

Aria R.

NYC,
United States

137 posts

OG since: 04/11/2010

Ever liked someone so much....
and never got to be with him?
someone you thought he liked you too...
but its all left UNKNOWN...

tell me your experiences please!

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Billie Jane

Billie J.

LOS ANGELES,
United States

4589 posts

OG since: 03/16/2009

Sort of. I didn't fall in love with them though.

posted Jun 10, 2011

Danie G..

Danie G.

1932,
United States

447 posts

Member since: 09/06/2010

Yeah, my friend Jason. He's going to a different college and we just now realized that we would've liked to date. Ha, I don't think we'd ever really date though.. I feel like he is out of my league, and he is pretty fickle.

posted Jul 23, 2011

Ellah D.

Ellah D.

HOGWARTS,
Philippines

62 posts

Member since: 09/14/2010

Yes and its killing me everyday. </3

posted Jul 23, 2011

Carmen B.

Carmen B.

LUXEMBOURG BUT LIVING IN BONN, GERMANY,
Luxembourg

132 posts

Member since: 12/23/2010

I have been in love with a boy from my class for about 3 years and at some point I thought he loved me, too but when I finally told him I loved him he said that he had no feelings for me. It was hard but he wasn't laughing at me or so but really friendly and respectful. And guess what, now he's my best friend and we can tell each other everything and I prefer it how it is now :)

posted Jul 23, 2011

Francisca P

Francisca P.

Portugal

154 posts

OG since: 07/15/2010

Yes, it sucks.

posted Jul 24, 2011

Christopher Leo

Christopher L.

GT,
Guatemala

1624 posts

OG since: 09/19/2009

Idk If I fell in love but I definitely had a bad crush.
It wears off with time.

posted Jul 24, 2011

Eilidh X

Eilidh X.

GLASGOW,
United Kingdom

310 posts

OG since: 03/21/2009

Yes. Difference is i was a bitch and went for it. He was my friend's ex and three months later he showed he was interested. Everyone told me not to do anything, ofcorse, and I tried not to but genuinely couldn't keep my self away. The guilt killed me and we're no where as close as we once were.. on the other hand I've been head over heels and a year and don't regret it.
Sometimes you just have to question whats worth it..

posted Jul 24, 2011

Christina S

Christina S.

MUNICH,
Germany

34 posts

OG since: 07/13/2009

yes,
I fell in love with that special boy 3 years ago and knowing that we probably will never be a couple hurts more and more every single day.
I can't explain why but I guess I'll never be able to give up on him, eventhough I know I miss a lot of other chances because of that..

posted Jul 24, 2011

Katie C

Katie C.

NEW YORK,
United States

102 posts

OG since: 08/15/2010

Yes, and it's very painful.

posted Jul 24, 2011

Kimberlee D

Kimberlee D.

CALIFORNIA,
United States

46 posts

Member since: 01/02/2011

Yea my friend Stephen who told all his friends he liked me but chose to go back out with his ex instead. I liked him so much but I feel like all he wants is a one night hookup and it kills me everyday but I've learned to accept it

posted Jul 25, 2011

Aurora .

Aurora ..

ONTARIO,
Canada

3763 posts

OG since: 07/21/2009

oh lets embarass myself a bit here....

when I see guys that I think could be interesting I like to make up personas for what I think they'd be like in real life and I call them my boyfriends. I currently have 4 made up boyfriends. I love them all very much, or as much as you can considering they aren't real.

posted Jul 25, 2011

Raymond Backus

Raymond B.

Belgium

339 posts

OG since: 04/22/2010

Well I'm gay and I fell in love with a straight friend of mine, I had to get over it. It quite painful.

posted Jul 25, 2011

Dallas Maguire

Dallas M.

SOUTHERN SPAIN,
Spain

46 posts

Member since: 05/29/2011

I'm in that situation at the moment.
He is this super cute and intelligent guy. We have so much fun together. He has this great sense of humour and he is really charming. The thing is that I'm 16 and he is 35... So like... Yep! It could be illegal and all that... Some friends are forcing me to like... Go for it! Although I'm kinda scared. I don't really know what to do. It really sucks a lot. I'll explain one situation, for exemple, when we are with more people around our eye contact is so intense that could burn the whole place. Did I mention that we have many things in common and that he looks irresistible with his elegant suit on?

posted Jul 25, 2011

Samantha Merz

Samantha M.

VANCOUVER,
Canada

275 posts

Member since: 09/08/2010

Yeah.

posted Jul 26, 2011

Brandon Harris

Brandon H.

SOMEWHERE IN THE UNIVERSE,
United States

50 posts

Member since: 07/14/2011

yeah... my best friend!! i was in the friend zone. but like if your gonna be with someone don't you want them to be your best friend? your other half?

posted Jul 26, 2011

Valeria G.

Valeria G.

MILANO,
Italy

246 posts

Member since: 02/07/2011

Always. I hate it.

posted Jul 27, 2011

Lauren M

Lauren M.

United Kingdom

55 posts

Member since: 10/02/2010

yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep
but... its all worked out :)

posted Jul 28, 2011

John Fucking  Wayne

John Fucking W.

BUTTFUCK NOWHERE,
United States

55 posts

Member since: 07/19/2011

Never, because I dont believe in that love bullshit, BUT

I have had feelings for men that when I was considering pursuing them, I realized it would never work longterm (5 yrs or longer), but even through all the logic, still feel attracted to them and yet dont want to start something I know will just fail.

It sucks.

posted Jul 30, 2011

Alaroy Creature

Alaroy C.

United States

418 posts

Member since: 01/21/2011

There's always better people out there, maybe even hotter ; )

posted Jul 30, 2011

Matthew Ballion

Matthew B.

United Kingdom

47 posts

OG since: 04/12/2009

Sky is the limit. Im dating a persom 12 years oder than me amd all is going well. You just need to be realistic

posted Jul 30, 2011

Dani A

Dani A.

LOS ANGELES,
United States

309 posts

OG since: 03/10/2010

My first and only "true love" so far was a married guy. He was an extra-curricular teacher of mine in some respects also. We actually fell for each other and kind of dated on the down-low but obviously couldn't technically "be together." He was honest with his wife about us but she still wasn't having it (I don't blame her) so they moved back to their hometown a few months after things started getting serious. Last time I heard from him, they were considering a divorce.

posted Jul 31, 2011

Morgan M.

Morgan M.

PLATFORM 9 3/4,
United States

101 posts

Member since: 04/22/2011

Not really in love, but definitely had a huge crush on a friend. And I still do. Thing is, a few days after we started to get to know eachother he started dating a girl because she was interested in him and he's very "yeah, let's go for it!" and they started dating. That's been almost four months and we've gotten really close. So by the time they break up I'm afraid we'll be too good of friends to even go for it.

posted Jul 31, 2011

Selina M

Selina M.

LONDON,
United Kingdom

779 posts

OG since: 11/11/2009

well i did have a crush on someone else who was seeing one of my friends but i never go there. it wouldn't have worked anyway

posted Jul 31, 2011

Sophie.M G

Sophie.M G.

UP NORTH,
United Kingdom

11 posts

Member since: 07/03/2011

It really really fucking hurts :(

posted Aug 2, 2011

Charles Olivier W-M

Charles Olivier W.

QUEBEC,
Canada

660 posts

OG since: 07/06/2010

Yes, kind of, and it sucks a lot.

posted Aug 2, 2011

Helen Dushko

Helen D.

SMALL TOWN NEAR RIVER,
Russian Federation

702 posts

Member since: 07/21/2011

sympathy mayb's possible
but luv-never

posted Aug 5, 2011

Samantha Teng

Samantha T.

SINGAPORE,
Singapore

536 posts

Member since: 08/28/2010

yep, and then we drifted apart :(

posted Aug 5, 2011

Dario G

Dario G.

Germany

75 posts

Member since: 02/08/2011

ofc, and it sucks

posted Aug 6, 2011

Milena  Bar

Milena B.

SAN FELIPE, CHILE,
Chile

39 posts

Member since: 09/25/2011

I fell in love with my best friend, then I discovered me he was "gay", my life went to hell, but know he isn't gay anymore... Now he's in love with other girl who will never love him.KARMA

posted Nov 18, 2011

Zahraisabelle L

Zahraisabelle L.

XANADU,
Sweden

4766 posts

OG since: 08/28/2009

Oh just every fucking time. q:

posted Nov 18, 2011

Gabii M

Gabii M.

South Africa

10 posts

Member since: 07/14/2011

well i REALLY liked him...he's gay. everytime.

posted Nov 18, 2011

Elise :]

Elise :.

SYDNEY,
Australia

932 posts

Member since: 03/20/2011

so many times. Damn you hot straight girls.

posted Nov 21, 2011

Mademoiselle Nadine

Mademoiselle N.

THE LAND OF MOZART,
Austria

168 posts

OG since: 12/22/2009

yes, i think he doesnt even know my name

posted Dec 30, 2011

Becky Bedbug

Becky B.

2005,
United Kingdom

593 posts

Member since: 08/28/2010

I wouldn't say I loved someone but when I was 18, I developed a very intense emotional relationship with someone.

I already had a boyfriend and he lived a good many miles away so we could only see each other once a month or so. It just couldn't work. When my boyfriend and I split, I did ask him whether he would consider it but he said the distance would be too difficult and he was worried about coming second best to my ex.

I don't really speak to him anymore which is a shame. He was a really nice guy and now, according to Facebook, he's getting a mortgage with his girlfriend. I'm really pleased for him. He deserves to be happy.

posted Dec 30, 2011

Grace Intraskul

Grace I.

BANGKOK,
Thailand

9 posts

Member since: 04/21/2011

Yep we love each other but I don't think we can be together :( sadd

posted Dec 31, 2011

MaryAlice M

MaryAlice M.

WONDERLAND,
United States

811 posts

Member since: 09/14/2011

I'm currently in that situation. He is my first love. We are forbidden to be together because he there is an 11 year gap in age. Neither of us knew, when we met, the age of the other. So I sit aside as I watch him move on, and I stay behind.

posted Dec 31, 2011

Chelsea Mae

Chelsea M.

NORTH CAROLINA,
United States

151 posts

OG since: 05/25/2009

it wasn't forbidden, but something was just off. We shared so many of the same opinions and views of the world. it was so refreshing because i really have never had a connection like that to a person before or after this. it really seemed like we were in perfect harmony. We were together non stop for a few weeks and then something in my gut was just unsettling and as much as it hurt me i felt like i had to break things off-- so i did.

"Paul" ended up moving across the country and i had absolutely no contact from him for nearly 2 years. During that time i had moved in and then broke up with my (current) boyfriend and he moved out. The day after he moved out i randomly received a belated birthday text message from Paul saying he was moving back and wanted to see me. it really seemed like a sign that i was supposed to be with him. When we met again it was perfect harmony allover again for a few months! But then as i began to settle into the relationship more i began to realize that we just were never going to meet at the same place in our lives. i'm always too far ahead (better job, motivation, responsibilities etc).

But it all worked out for the best because now i'm back with the man of my dreams and happy as ever.... but i'll always remember my summer of 2008 and 2010

posted Dec 31, 2011

Tayi Ashley Tibble

Tayi Ashley T.

WELLINGTON NEW ZEALAND,
New Zealand

77 posts

Member since: 10/15/2011

@Dallas M.

I so go through that too! Older guys.. and Im 16 too, although that the legal age in my country.. but still, it weirds people out and " Socially, morally etc..its " FORBIDDEN" but its hard to help.. especially when you meet someone an theres a real connection, and things esculate. I think sometimes its love.. Im not sure.. but still theres the age factor! I hate being a teen, its so oppressive. :(

This doesnt make sense.. but neither does the situation! Sorry! But yeah.. Yes Ive fallen in love with someone I couldnt be with.. I think.

posted Dec 31, 2011

Laura Pirez

Laura P.

BRAZIL,
United States

68 posts

Member since: 12/11/2011

When I was 14 I traveled to Disney and had a big crush on my tour guide. I got into a relationship but I got his e-mail and always was randomly talking to him about music and stuff. When I broke up, almost 2 years later, I started to email him everyday and I saw him twice during Carnival. I fell for him and he wanted to be with me too but he has 34. He said that he likes me a lot but he doesn't want to get in trouble. :(

posted Dec 31, 2011

Jana Templo

Jana T.

Philippines

458 posts

Member since: 03/06/2011

nope! :D

posted Jan 1, 2012

Katie Lee

Katie L.

INDIANAPOLIS,
United States

345 posts

OG since: 08/30/2009

I've never fallen in love before. I'm only 18, it's hard to think that I've already gone and found that one person.

But, yes, I have had an intense liking for someone I couldn't have.

posted Jan 1, 2012

Alex Contreras

Alex C.

United States

50 posts

OG since: 05/17/2010

Yes, currently. I don't know if we can or can't be with each other, anymore, cause neither of us put any effort into each other. We never really did except for a week and we are so awkward in person--so awkward, we don't speak--so basically, it's that neither of us put effort and that's why we just can't :S

posted Jan 2, 2012

N T.

N T.

Indonesia

39 posts

Member since: 01/06/2011

Yep, and this shit is sucks. We don't have any relationship status but we were really close for last 7 month. Now he's change and I dunno why. And the best thing I can do is just pretending I'm happy.

posted Feb 5, 2012

Lucy Kate

Lucy K.

Australia

97 posts

Member since: 02/26/2011

YES.
this boy was chasing me for SIX MONTHS. He was taken by me the first time he ever met and chased me for six months. I told him I wasn't sure if I was ready for a relationship. He hang out though and talked a lot. Then at the end of last year I finally told him that I wanted to be with him. He then told me no because he doesnt trust me, he said his heart says yes and his head says no. and that he doubts me!! i am so angry and annoyed cause why chase me for six months and then change your mind. it doesnt make sense.

posted Feb 5, 2012

Ansley Martinez

Ansley M.

SAN DIEGO,
United States

22 posts

Member since: 01/22/2012

Not me but my best friend has generals as parents and is banned from being with the love if her life ..it breaks my heart to watch her suffer ..its the worst kind of torture because she deserves to be happy more than anyone I know

posted Feb 5, 2012

Melissa Sutanto

Melissa S.

CUPERTINO,
United States

17 posts

Member since: 02/07/2011

yep. sad story here. we recently just broke up. the first time we met, we were instantly liked each other. but then we saw how different we are - different interests, different lives, different groups of friends, etc. the only thing holding us together were our attraction to each other. i guess it was just lust afterall

posted Feb 6, 2012

Zahira O

Zahira O.

JAKARTA,
Indonesia

420 posts

OG since: 01/30/2010

my first love! i was in love for about two years. he went to the same school and he was 2 years above me. he liked someone else, he said. but maybe he didn't like me because i'm a freak >< his friends knew i liked him and sooo i had an awful 7th grade experience. he was a nice person though. wish he had the same feelings but oh well.

posted Feb 6, 2012

Tok V

Tok V.

Germany

413 posts

Member since: 12/03/2011

Oh yeah. My first love was four years older than me, and at 14, that's quite a lot :D I stayed in love with him for three years. Eventually, we became very close friends, and that hurt a lot. I managed to leave all this behind after three years... but it was hard.

posted Feb 6, 2012

Reiel Limlengco

Reiel L.

JAPAN BUT LIVING IN MANILA,
Philippines

302 posts

Member since: 12/13/2011

trying not to.
if i'm liking someone and i know that the person wont like me back
i wont push through so that i have no reason to be inlove.
well, love always starts by liking someone then it'll develop

posted Feb 19, 2012

Vynka Aaaaa

Vynka A.

MY MIND,
Australia

112 posts

Member since: 04/16/2011

harry styles..

posted Feb 19, 2012

Jen Li

Jen L.

TORONTO,
Canada

164 posts

Member since: 12/21/2010

On my month long trip to Italy, I fell in love with a photographer. Realistically, I live several thousands of miles away so it was never meant to happen. To this day I still treasure those moments we had together..

posted Feb 20, 2012

Mara C

Mara C.

LAS LOUIS AND ST. VEGAS,
United States

4847 posts

OG since: 12/27/2009

Eeeyup. Gay friend. Herpderp.

posted Feb 20, 2012

Jazz Nicole

Jazz N.

NEW YORK,
United States

2668 posts

OG since: 05/30/2009

Wouldn't say I'm in love, but there is a guy who I really, really like and I know he feels the same way about me. From the first day I met him, we just vibed well. Unfortunately, he's taken and pursuing him would be a huge slap in the face to his girlfriend, who happens to be a friend of mine. It would also be a problem with our circle of friends. I wish we met under different circumstances.

posted Feb 20, 2012

Roselinni C

Roselinni C.

GREENFIELDS,
Philippines

185 posts

Member since: 11/13/2011

Quite. It's mostly because of his voice though. But he has fallen for my best friend; and it truly sucks.

posted Feb 20, 2012

Joss P

Joss P.

SOUTH AFRICA,
South Africa

122 posts

Member since: 02/10/2012

I technically wasn't meant to be with my boyfriend because I met him and fell for him while dating my abusive ex. It was killing me inside because I wanted to be with him but was scared of my ex. I finally gathered the courage one day and broke things off. It wasn't easy, but me and my boyfriend eventually managed to get together and it's been two and a half years now.

posted Feb 21, 2012

Y.D. Pitaloka

Y.D. P.

SINGAPORE,
Singapore

40 posts

Member since: 01/10/2012

yup. my first love! and I'm still in love with him 'till now s impossible to be with him :(

posted Feb 22, 2012

Noah .

Noah ..

A PLACE WHERE I LONG TO FORGET,
Saint Vincent and the Grenadines

108 posts

Member since: 12/30/2011

@Mara C.

We're soul mates!

posted Apr 7, 2012

Celina Valdez

Celina V.

CARSON,
United States

615 posts

OG since: 01/14/2010

Shia la beouf :[

posted Apr 7, 2012

Christina Ann

Christina A.

TEXAS,
United States

613 posts

OG since: 06/06/2010

looking back on it I wouldn't consider it love, but I thought I was so in love and absolutely meant to be with this one guy that I dated for three years. things were so messed up and he moved away and we tried to stay together but we kept breaking up and getting back together when we shouldn't have and he just didn't want to be with me anymore.

posted Apr 8, 2012

Gillian R.

Gillian R.

HERE, THERE AND EVERYWHERE...CALIFORNIA,
United States

106 posts

Member since: 11/24/2010

story of my life..not that i really know what love in this particular sense really is...but whats worse is when i like him he likes me we don't take the moment and it turns to dust and he moves on:/

posted Apr 8, 2012

Joem Madrazo

Joem M.

DAVAO CITY,
Philippines

11 posts

Member since: 09/26/2011

I think this isn't love yet coz I just saw him here on Lookbook. Hahaha. Anyway, I fell in love with his style. But this guy is stylish but noticed that he really doesn't smile that much. I follow him on Twitter and Instagram. Hoping to see a picture of him finally smiling. But no, hopeless. :))

posted Apr 8, 2012

Monica D.

Monica D.

Bulgaria

241 posts

Member since: 01/25/2012

Nope. (I had crushes on guys that weren't single, but that doesn't count.)

posted Apr 8, 2012

Vanessa E

Vanessa E.

KUALA LUMPUR,
Malaysia

68 posts

Member since: 03/10/2011

Yes, I've had some crushes. But the right guy found me so yeah. :) Currently having a HUGE fangirl crush on some guy on lookbook though :P

posted Apr 9, 2012

Cassandra D

Cassandra D.

MANILA,
Philippines

66 posts

Member since: 12/19/2011

I've had the biggest crush on an upperclassman who just graduated. Smart, funny, b-e-a-utiful, and we're actually really good friends. And I get *vibes* ...but it might all be in my head.


posted Apr 11, 2012

Mark D.

Mark D.

MANILA,
Philippines

56 posts

Member since: 09/27/2011

yeah, but we couldn't be together,
COULDN'T, SHOULDN'T, MUSTN'T.... the sad reality, you do not get all the things you want in life, what if you don't just want it? you NEED it. So hard, and its killing me.

'twas painful, very painful, yet you can't do anything. (sigh) thanks for reading.

iammarkdizon.blogspot.com/

posted Apr 11, 2012

Helene Selvig

Helene S.

Norway

38 posts

Member since: 05/24/2011

Yeah, unfortunately.... We were friends, but I honestly don't know what happened. I never see him anymore and we barely even talk. I feel like I'm stuck in the same place, and I can't get over him. Everything he says and stands for are just.....I feel like I'll never find anyone as great as him.
But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?

Thank you everyone for your comments! It really helped me reading through them, and writing my own little story :-) You are all wonderful! Don't give up <3

posted Apr 11, 2012

Mia R

Mia R.

A HOLE IN THE WALL,
United States

28 posts

Member since: 02/21/2012

not quite fallen in love but i do have very strong feelings for him. we work together and we used to hang out but i started to feel really guilty about it because he has a girlfriend. so i told him i couldn't be his friend anymore this past monday, it was so hard. but the whole thing is just fucked up and depressing!

posted Apr 12, 2012

Caroline E

Caroline E.

NORTH YORKSHIRE,
United Kingdom

22 posts

Member since: 02/22/2012

... I think this everytime I see Jason Statham in a film... :(

posted Apr 12, 2012

Amanda Santana

Amanda S.

Brazil

88 posts

OG since: 04/04/2010

I liked a friend of mine. He didn't like me the same way, so we were kind of weird some time and then it just disappeared. We're friends again now, as if it was before, but during the time I still liked him it was a complete shitty situation.

posted Apr 17, 2012

Santa Franceschi

Santa F.

LATVIA,
Latvia

24 posts

Member since: 03/04/2012

the feeling sucks when someone doesn't like you back. good that he lives far away and i don't see him that often.

posted Apr 17, 2012

Bernadette Profeta

Bernadette P.

SAN JOSE, CA,
United States

76 posts

OG since: 05/24/2010

yea, its such a predicament... :[

posted Apr 18, 2012

Raya B

Raya B.

WALES,
United Kingdom

77 posts

OG since: 06/01/2009

i think i love someone who used to love me ages ago.

posted Apr 18, 2012

Kiersten LeGasse

Kiersten L.

NEW YORK,
United States

12 posts

Member since: 04/11/2012

I was in love with someone for 2 years...
He led me on the whole time.
Then ended up getting back with his ex who he still loved the whole time.
:(

posted Apr 19, 2012

Kirstine Eibye Elgaard Christiansen

Kirstine Eibye E.

HADSTEN, AARHUS,
Denmark

205 posts

Member since: 04/15/2011

I did, a long time ago. I guess I never stopped loving him and now he's dead. I guess that love's really on my side, huh?

posted Apr 19, 2012

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